I went to Brooklyn for a friend’s birthday party. This picture was actually taken in the wrong neighborhood. Her street ended in Avenue, and I went to a street in Brooklyn with the same name but ending in Street. Bah! I made my way there, though. This was a lovely sunset. I really love Manhattan, but I also truly enjoy not being in Manhattan sometimes, like enjoying a bonfire without getting too hot all the time. Does that even make sense?
April 1, 2011
4 MayMarch 27, 2011
2 May
Being the bookworms that we are, I took my mother and sister to The Strand Bookstore. Something about rows and rows of books makes me feel pure joy. Not even joy, pure optimism. Like there is just so many more stories to read, beautiful books to spend time getting to know. Lord help me, I do LOVE books.
March 26, 2011
2 May
During this time of difficulty, my lovely lady relatives came to town. My mother and my sister came to force feed me, brush my hair as I talked on and on about the disappointment, and force me out of that depressing apartment. On this day, we went to the Metropolitan Museum of Art. While it was wonderful to have them in town, I definitely needed some serious alone time. At the museum, I made my way away from them and towards the modern art section. I enjoy modern art. Not the what-the-fuck-is-that-modern-art, but the modern art that isn’t just a painting of Madonna with child. I consider myself an artist of the word, especially when it comes to crafting poetry. But there is something to visual art that I respect so much. This piece took my breath away. There were pages of my journal dedicated to how I feel. I spent hours on the phone with friends trying to put words to what I was experiencing. But this picture. Me looking into this modern art mirror. This is it. This is exactly how I felt. Beyond words. Beyond a logical explanation. This was me at that moment. Even beyond the break-up, which I often feel is just another event in a long line of difficult challenges that have been thrown at me over the last year. My life, Chrissy in 2011 is this photograph.
March 19, 2011
2 May
It was been a while. But like I said, I’m not giving up. The last six weeks were truly spotty for my project, but I’m getting it all back on track. The project, my life, my goals.
This was actually the day of the break-up. Not a good one in my life. But on the bright side, this was also the first day that I hung out with my friend Brehnan in New York. He contacted me at an awkward moment, but he didn’t shy away. He insisted that I not sit home and wallow, that I go out and pick myself up. No easy feat at that moment. So, with red, swollen eyes, no makeup, and a dazed attitude, I trudged with him to a local bar. I hadn’t eaten at all that day, so he made me eat a veggie burger, and we drank a LOT of beer. This thing was called a tower. We didn’t drink it all, but we made some friends who helped us out. It was incredible to have my mind on something else for a couple of hours. I even laughed and, dare I say it, enjoyed myself. Brehnan has proved an amazing friend in not letting me mope or get myself down. I needed to go out that night, because there was hell awaiting me when I returned to the empty apartment.
My Apologies
3 AprI know it has been a long time since I updated, and it has weighed heavily on my mind. Almost all, if not all, of you, my readers, know me personally and know that Travis and I broke up. It has undeniably been one of the most shocking and difficult things to go through. I have been a whirlwind of emotions, and I chose to take a break from the photo project to take care of myself. I also didn’t want to broadcast the things I was feeling because of the natural need for privacy for both him and I. However, I have not given up on the project. There is definitely going to be a hole, and it won’t necessarily be 365 photos at the end of this year, but I don’t think that is a good enough reason to quit. I don’t quit. I don’t give up on things, which is partially why this whole situation has been so hard on me.
For anyone who has left a long-term relationship, one of the hardest things to do is to find something to fill that hole that the partnership once held in life. Over the last couple of weeks, I have struggled with the question about what to do now, who am I on my own, how do I reclaim my life. It hurts to even have to ask these questions. I’ve felt so bad about myself. Without divulging too much detail, he had told me that I wasn’t challenging him, that I wasn’t taking on life the way I should, and that I wasn’t comfortable enough with myself. I took those words to heart, perhaps more so than I should have. Upon further reflection, I keep going back to the moment, when I saw this postcard on postsecret.com…
I saw it weeks before we broke up, and it took my breath away. It was exactly how I have felt for months. I am not going to use this space to speak about him, what he did, and who he is to have caused this, because this isn’t about him anymore, it’s about me. I was with someone who although a good person at heart, didn’t support, understand, or encourage the person that I am. He made me feel like I wasn’t living life in comparison to him, because he had more friends than I did to go drinking with and had a more successful career than me. But these are never things that I used to base my life around. I DO live life, and I DO know who I am. He often made me feel like I didn’t have anything, that I wasn’t trying. Maybe I wasn’t, maybe it was easier to curl up in his arms and not worry about myself for a while. Though, my life at the moment is a rollercoaster of emotions (love, hate, joy, despair, anger, frustration, ecstasy, fear) I often feel like I have won something back. No, I don’t have a wildly successful career, and I don’t get drunk with near-strangers. But I knit, cook, watch baseball, read poetry, learn languages, teach English, make badass latte art, play catch, fly kites, spend entire days just READING, get passionate about feminism, do the New York Times crossword every day, write novels in ONE MONTH, undertake a yearlong photography project, try any food or drink you put in front of me, listen to old country, watch old movies, read and obsess about serial killers, love aquariums, ride a bike 80 miles around the Czech Republic, dance drunkenly to 80’s music, drink Maker’s Mark on an empty stomach, move across the country in a blink of an eye, eat cold pizza for breakfast, swim the backstroke, karaoke the hell out of Dolly Parton, launch my own dicey website, and I am always willing and excited to learn and try something new. I am never going to lose those things for a relationship again. I know his list isn’t nearly as long as mine, and I’m never going to shrink my list down again so that I can fit with someone. I don’t mean to put him down, he is a wonderful person who I hope to stay friends with for the rest of my life. The only difference is that my life is now going to come first and come back!
The point of all this, is yes, to give myself some validation and some courage to go back out into the world, but it is also to say that I’m not done with the Project 365. In fact, I think my pictures are about to get much more interesting, as my life is as well. I have three weeks left in New York to soak in all this city has, then to Boston, then back to my true love, the Pacific Northwest.
So I am truly sorry, I have left everyone hanging for so long, but for all my amazing friends that follow this, I’m doing fine, and I promise much more amazing pictures are yet to come.
March 17, 2011
18 Mar
This was a crazy day for me. When I went to bed a little after midnight, I felt like I had been through four distinctly different days. For purposes of privacy and simplicity, I will only talk about St. Patrick’s Day!
It was actually pretty fun. It was a beautiful day outside, warm and sunny, and there were people everywhere. By noon, the bars were overflowing, and people were dressed in green/Irish/drunk themed outfits. There were bagpipers in the street, and, oh yes, lots and lots of firemen. Travis and I went out a bit after nine and hit up a few different bars. It felt like New Years Eve or something, there were so many people spilled out into the streets, all drunkenly stumbling around. We actually only went to two bars now that I think about it and got a Guinness each. Mostly it was nice to walk around the streets, see the festivities, and just enjoy the nice nighttime breeze.
March 16, 2011
18 Mar
St. Patrick’s Day is a pretty big deal on the East Coast. So much preparation goes into it, it almost feels like Christmas. My boss (who is from Ireland) gave me some amusing advice for my first St. Patty’s Day in New York City.
1.) Beware of vomit in the street.
2.) You will not receive a glass at any bar, it will all be plastic cups.
3.) There will be peanuts on the floor to absorb moisture.
4.) There will be more firemen wandering around, then I could have ever dreamed.
All of this was in fact true, except for the peanuts thing.
March 15, 2011
18 Mar
Our apartment has high ceilings which is nice, because it makes the 700 square feet feel a lot less cramped. My only issue with it is the kitchen, where I can’t reach things a lot of the time. We have mostly non-necessary things on the top shelf. But this night, at 10pm, when I decided I wanted a cookie, I found out that my tall boyfriend had shelved them on the top shelf. I am on my tip-toes in this picture. Is this not the saddest picture I’ve ever taken it? It makes me want to cry.
March 14, 2011
16 Mar
Thanks to Travelzoo.com, we got a really awesome deal at this swank Tribeca Mexican restaurant. Travis took his big test today, and we decided to hit the town to celebrate. Our waiter was super nice until he saw our coupon, he proceeded to look down his nose at us the rest of the night, throwing a bevy of “no’s” in our faces.
Me: I’ll have a peach margarita?
Waiter: With your coupon (sneer), you can only have a regular margarita.
Travis: For our two appetizers, we’ll have the guacamole and…
Waiter: Your coupon (sneer) counts the guacamole as two appetizers.
Travis: I’ll have the Seafood Enchiladas…
Waiter: No…..(sneer)
He also neglected our table which was particularly irksome since the rest of the restaurant was relatively empty. We tipped him on the low side, but still substantial, which kind of annoyed me, because he forced us to live up to his expectations.
March 13, 2011
16 Mar
Why not, eh? I’ve always considered law school, and I just want something to work on. I still write, but I don’t know where that is going, and I just want to be back at school, learning something new. So, why not? I took the three hour chunk out of my Sunday, sat down and took my first practice exam just to see where I stand. It was ROUGH. But, I didn’t do too bad. I did amazing on the Arguments Section.